Inlaws are Stupid

You know, I think what bothers me more than anything about J is that he thinks he has no issues. He believes that it's all me, all the time. And yet he will rattle on about how dysfunctional his sisters are, how they always have been and how crazy his mother is and how his father hates him.... He has told me about their drug use, his mother's thefts, her embezzlement, her ridiculous tirades she went on when he was a child and her complete neglect of him in every way imaginable. She is, I believe, 100% certifiably nuts. She tells stories about what a wonderful mother is and everyone knows -- EVERYONE KNOWS -- it's all a lie. She tells about how she was so abused as a child and her own family gives me nods across the table letting me know she's a liar.

He admits his youngest sister hates him. She told him his father was not really his biological father and introduced him to acid when he was 18. Her life has been on self destruct since the day she was born and she then perpetuated that onto J. The bottom line, she is jealous of him. His older sister is a pathological liar. When J's niece was 10, she came to me and told me her 12 year old brother was molesting her. I did what anyone would do, I told her mother. She didn't believe her daughter and then convinced her that I somehow "made" her say it and that it never happened.

Umm, okay. Let's live in denial a little bit longer. This 12 year old is now 20ish and cannot keep a job, cannot stay in college (although his mother will lie and say he's in college) and has a plethora of legal issues he's trying to avoid. He pulled a gun on his own father and has been arrested for drugs and a number of other things -- yep, public record. It's par for the course in this family. His niece, now 18 going on 2 is a total idiot. She couldn't stay in high school, so her mother put her in dance. Sadly, the people at the dance company think they're all fruit loops (I have friends that have children there and I know a few others who go there). This is a child that I once treated better than her own mother did. A child I took for pictures, did her hair, kept her for weeks because her mother was too strung out to take care of her. And they have turned her against me with their lies.

His family is, to say the very least, dysfunctional.

My ex-mother-in-laws sister and two of her cousins are very close friends of mine. Both are aware of the issues I have had with her and understand (boy do they understand) how poisonous this woman is. I keep hoping she will drop dead of a heart attack but apparently my black magic doesn't work anymore. Speaking of, an anonymous person sent her a voodoo doll once (can you see how loved she is?). Damn. I wish I had thought of that.

And yet, J thinks he came out of this dysfunction unscathed. He remembers being 6 years old, home alone, and there was no food in the house. He remembers neighbors who didn't allow their children to be around them because his sisters drank and did drugs before they were 13.

He's normal and I'm not.